Conversation starters

Shout out to C.J. Mahaney, whose excellent post on Together for the Gospel I am now shamelessly plagiarizing (sort of). If you’re married, go read that post instead. If you’re not married, read it anyway. But also read this one.

Also read my previous post before you read this one or it won’t make sense.

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So how do you start seeking your dad’s counsel and wisdom if you haven’t been doing it for a while? Let me tell you; it’s difficult at first. You’re putting yourself in a vulnerable place. It’ll benefit you, but it’s like surgery. Doesn’t feel very good.

Just do it. I dare you.

Sometimes when you’re talking to your dad it’s helpful to have a purposeful conversation starter. So take him out to [your local independent coffee shop] and ask him some questions. Here are some good ones:

• What is a consistent pattern of sin you see in my life?
• In what way can I honor you and Mom more?
• or, What is one way you have noticed that I am not honoring you or Mom?
• Do you have anything you’ve wanted to tell me but you didn’t think I would recieve it?

Don’t be afraid to have these questions answered honestly! Then apologize where appropriate, repent, rely on the Holy Spirit to change, and ask for continued accountability.

I double-dog-dare you.